I realize now that I should have added this to my post when I wrote it up...
I'm not a band stalker. About 90% of all the bands I've met were at a venue called Station 4 in St. Paul, MN and to anyone who has ever been there, you know that because of the size of the place the bands actually come out to you and start haning out. The other occasions were meet and greets and the two occasions where I did wait out by the bus (John Petrucci and the bassist of From Monument To Masses).
Also my hair has gotten a bit longer since then, not shoulder length, but getting there. Also less weight.